The holidays are supposed to be a time for joy and family – but divorce throws a serious wrench into that idea. On top of the usual holiday chores (shopping, cooking, taking care of the kids while they’re out of school), you also have to deal with the stress, uncertainty, grief and struggles of separation. Holidays can be especially difficult for children whose parents are divorcing. Here are some useful tips to help your kids get the most out of the holiday season.
Holidays With The Kids During Divorce – Don’t Panic!
Make sure the children know that they will still be able to celebrate, just that it is going to be different this year. There will probably be a lot more traveling – one way to assuage the kids’ fears is to frame it by saying that they get to have two celebrations this year instead of one.
Plan around the best interests of the children. Holiday planning is enough of a struggle as it is, but you should do everything in your power to ensure that this is a special time for the kids. Come up with a holiday division schedule that will minimize their stress, whether this means splitting days or planning your celebrations at a different time than usual.
Don’t be afraid to ask for help from your family or friends.
Create new traditions! Maybe plan an annual ice skating day for the kids, or let them help you make a special holiday recipe.
Take care of yourself when the children are with your ex-spouse. Let them know that you want them to have a good time with your ex, and while they’re out, find ways to keep yourself entertained. Maybe there’s a new movie out this year that you haven’t had time to see (we hear “Arrival” is good), or maybe you could use a spa day.
Try to keep communication between you and your ex-cordial and open. Like it or not, you are going to have to interact with him or her. Keep it civil for the sake of the kids.
Our Denver family law attorneys wish you and yours a happy holiday season!